When Do Sad Songs Become Too Sad?

Music is a medium for expressing emotions. We can all think of songs that embody seething anger, exuberant joy, or aching despair. Lately I’ve been thinking about the sadder side of things. There’s a place for letting out the true emotions of your heart, but just because all emotions exist doesn’t mean all of them are healthy to revel in. When does a sad song cross the line into self-pity and simply become too sad?

It all started with Anberlin and the moodier songs from their new album, Dark Is The Way, Light Is A Place. Stephen Christian’s never been the happiest songwriter around, but when he sang, “Because of you I’ll never write another love song,” that was just too much for me, and I began to think about the difference between sad songs I like and sad songs I can’t stand.

I don’t like songs that portray no hope, because there is always hope. But what if you don’t feel hope? Songs that have a cheesy “don’t worry, Jesus saves” ending can take away from the legitimacy of the feeling of hopelessness.

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September 2010 Monthly Music Guide #7

Looking for something new? Here’s what I’ve been listening to lately…

Anberlin - Dark Is The Way Light Is A Place - Album Cover
Artist:
Anberlin
Album: Dark Is The Way, Light Is A Place (September 7, 2010)
Style: Moody, anthemic rock

Anberlin is back with a vengeance, and from the opening guitar riffs you know they’re knocking the socks off of anyone who thought New Surrender was boring. Overall the music is strong and dark with lots of driving guitar (think Cities) and even a smattering of piano, organ, and acoustic riffs. Stephen Christian’s voice resonates clearly, but unfortunately it’s mostly just resonating angst. New Surrender showed some attempts at broader songwriting, but pretty much every song here is an emotional pity-party begging her to stay or scowling at her for leaving – does the world really need another song with lyrics like “who needs enemies when we’ve got friends like you”? Ultimately, this is another solid album from Anberlin that is sure to satisfy old fans. But as much as I respect Christian and his craft – see this great interview – the lyrics here are too much for me to recommend.

Standout Lyric:Because of you, I’ll never write another love song. /
Was I the greatest in your arsenal? /
Or just the latest in your art of war?
In Case It Interests You: The members of Anberlin are generally known as Christians.
STREAM THE WHOLE ALBUM: myspace.com/anberlin

Lakes - The Agreement - Album Cover
Artist:
Lakes
Album: The Agreement (September 3, 2010)
Style: Soft acoustic pop with nice instrumentation

Lakes carries a Snow Patrol vibe that’s maybe a little bouncier with an abundant use of keys and even some organ and a bit of accordion, not to mention the acoustic picking that I’m pretty sure is a banjo. If somebody put them in a movie soundtrack, “Oh Lovely” would go in the fireworks part of the relationship, while “The Feeling” would fit perfectly in the part where everything starts to break. Some of the slower anthems are both lush and rough, punctuated by the occasional minor chord that might be what Thrice would sound like if they wrote pop ballads (“Lifting Me Up” is like a 3/4 Jeremy Camp single with less gruff vocals). Sometimes the resonating drum pounding and vocalizing sound more like a Phil-Collins-African-jungle-ride (especially on “When We Were Younger”). Regardless, Lakes keeps things fresh and interesting from beginning to end, and they’re a pleasant surprise waiting just for you.

Standout Lyric: We could go out / We could stay in /
We’ve got this beautiful day /
We could just sing / We could just dance /
We’ve got this beautiful day /
In Case It Interests You: As far as I know the members of Lakes are known as Christians.
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May 2010 Monthly Music Guide #3

Looking for something new? Here’s what I’ve been listening to lately…


Artist: Timbre
Album: Little Flowers (May 2010)
Style: Beautiful harp music dipped in a collection of lovely voices and instruments

From the opening notes of the harmonizing choir, you know you’re in for a treat. Timbre and her harp give us another round of lofty lullabies, but she finds a few more major chords this time around. Here she invites us to join her and her family and friends in a chorus of celebration complete with bells, toy pianos, strings, and a variety of percussion that occasionally shift into moving grooves more reminiscent of her friends mewithoutYou. The “little flowers” are a metaphor for our own fragile but slowly strengthening selves, and this is a garden you’ll want to visit this summer.
Standout Lyric: But pain can be beautiful, my dear / Roots that are deep do not fear winter / And spring has more joy when you’ve felt / The remnants of cold sorrows melt
Standout Lyric II: Watching the frail stems / Put forth their brand new leaves / And I find a love for them / In their honest weakness / And maybe you feel the same for me too
In Case It Interests You: Timbre is known as a Christian.
STREAM THE WHOLE ALBUM: timbre.bandcamp.com


Artist:
As I Lay Dying
Album: The Powerless Rise (May 11, 2010)
Style: Powerful charges and challenges from modern metalcore’s finest

They’re not the only ones that rock the double-bass, the harmonic guitar riffs, or the screaming/singing combo, but these musicians fuse into a tight sound that’s simply intense, from the solo-worthy guitar action that hides under the verses to the diverse styles and emotions of Tim Lambesis’s vocal gruffs. Meanwhile, Tim’s lyrics continue to powerfully express his worldview in a way that is evident to anyone paying attention, yet without bashing it over anyone’s head. Whether it’s a perspective of suffering, a challenge against apathy, or a caution that freedom to one’s impulses is really slavery, this band is practically theological philosophy set to pounding metalcore. Nothing disappointing here.
Standout Lyric: We’ve focused so long on ideals of freedom / That it is this very belief that oppresses us / We all want to be free / Yet we find ways to forfeit liberty / To our own impulses / To our own consumption
Standout Lyric II: Simplicity is not a curse where strength is humbled / And the powerless rise / This is a kingdom born upside-down / This is a kingdom where the broken are crowned
In Case It Interests You: The members of As I Lay Dying are known as Christians.
STREAM SOME TRACKS: myspace.com/asilaydying

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Tuesday Releases: mewithoutYou, Mat Kearney, Family Force 5, Ian McIntosh

mewithoutYou: it’s all crazy! it’s all false! it’s all a dream! it’s alright.

This is the first of my three huge anticipated releases this year (see Switchfoot, Mute Math), and extrapolating from my first impression I think I’m going to love it. Awesome poetic lyrics with rich metaphors and imagery about God and love and temptation and selflessness and forgiveness and redemption, and clever music with either driving rhythms or a folky saunter. Many have complained that this is less intense than the older mewithoutYou, but I don’t mind – I have a small but fond place in my heart for childlike storytelling songwriting, and Aaron Weiss makes it beautiful. Besides, there’s still plenty of stuff to make your head bob or foot tap – but mainly, to make your face smile :)

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CORNERSTONE 2008 THURSDAY – JULY 3

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A hot sun rose again on Thursday morning, and the only interesting thing that happened before noon was Jacob randomly getting a free, worn pair of shoes from folks in a band called Blessed Is He who were trying to advertise by any means possible – including painting an unreadable “BIH” on used footwear.

In the afternoon we saw an anticipated show by one of my favorite bands that deserves to be bigger than they are – Deas Vail still makes pretty music and I can’t wait for the new stuff in August (EP) and January (full-length).

Andy Deas Vail

There wasn’t anyone I had to see until the evening, and with the heat and excitement of the past three days wearing down on me, I relaxed at the campsite and listened to my mewithoutYou purchase. 2004′s Catch For Us The Foxes is just as incredible as their most recent Brother, Sister. Aaron Weiss is a lyricist I love listening to, especially under a first experience of following along with the words in the jacket, as the imagery he creates just makes me smile: Jonah, where’s that boat going / Your ship set with eager sails? / There’s a swirling storm soon blowing / And no use, fishermen, in rowing from a consecrated whale! It’s an enjoyable moment I haven’t had since… OK, since Thrice’s second-half EP set came out in April.

Food Like That
Then it was time for our generous North Carolina youth group friends’ famous annual Thursday night mega Spaghetti Dinner, where hundreds of (poor?) (freeloading?) (grateful?) campers line up to take part in seventy pounds of spaghetti. It took long enough that the Main Stage acts for the night went under way, and I bobbed my plate and fork to the beat of Jonezetta. Leeland followed, and we took a few pics before walking across the campsite to the P12 tent to check our volunteer friends’ promised dessert.

We found an empty basket by the sound system that said “Free Dessert.” We thought we had come too late. As if on cue, Bethany showed up with some brownies and rice krispies, placing them in the basket – we were actually right on time! She said they didn’t have as much as they usually did, and I sort of felt bad about mobbing their supply, but they were really good.

We got back to our campsite in time for Hawk Nelson to take the stage. Oh, Hawk Nelson. I admit I used to sort of like this poppy punky band. Smile, It’s The End of the World was 2006′s fun summer album. But I just can’t get into them anymore. Maybe it’s because when I went to see them with Falling Up the lead guy was dressed like a Backstreet Boys reject wooing giddy 12-year-olds in the front row. Or maybe it’s because they’ve turned into the Jonas Brothers for the Christian market. I was also kinda bothered by their cover of “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun,” which didn’t exactly (in my eyes) mesh with the video screen promotion of Hawk Nelson’s inclusion in an all-girl conference meant to improve their self-respect and confidence. Oh, Josh, picky, picky.

As Mike, Jacob, and I headed down to the Main Stage to try to press in closer for The Almost during the post-Hawk exodus, I did have fun singing along to “One Thing I Have Left” and pretending I was getting into the show.

Maybe we, why don’t we just watch this show for half an hour…
The most entertaining part of The Almost happened before Aaron Gillespie took the stage. Since they flew in from Warped Tour, they didn’t have time to sound check earlier in the day, so their nerd-ish roadie strummed some guitars and did vocal checks with lullabies like “My mom’s the best mom / Better than your mom” (or something like that), and the crowd loved it so much they spontaneously chanted “One more song” – the only time I’ve ever heard an encore for a sound check.

The Almost’s set was OK, and I enjoyed the songs I knew, but I still can’t convince myself that I like it enough to get the album. I totally respect and admire Aaron for his incredible music abilities – masterful drumming and vocals for a demanding band like Underoath and still having enough time to record a side project and even keep touring as Underoath prepares for their new September release. His non-UO stuff just doesn’t grab me as much.

Anberlin was up next, and before Mike and I pressed in even closer Jacob asked for my camera to try to get a picture of Aaron and Tiki. We were able to get only a few feet from the stage, but I feared I would never get my camera back in time to take pictures of Anberlin.

There was a longer pause between sets as Jamie from To Write Love On Her Arms made an appearance. It was his pre-Anberlin talk at Main Stage last year that gave me a fuller introduction and admiration for this wonderful organization. I and many of those around me can easily downplay or remain ignorant of the massive destructive effects of depression, suicide, and self-injury. It breaks my heart to know that there are many thousands of young women who have trouble understanding love because their parents and peers only gave them hate and rejection. I have many thoughts about TWLOHA which could suffice for a note of its own, but here I’ll just say I’m glad somebody’s making a difference.

Just before Anberlin took the stage, the fan behind me called out, “Josh – your camera!” Jacob had pressed in two rows behind me, returning the camera and rushing off with an excited “Check out the first picture!”

Aaron Gillespie

Because of all the talking Anberlin got a late start, and they were dangerously threatening to cut into my much anticipated The Glorious Unseen’s set over at the Anchor Stage tent. It was an odd set – out of the nine songs we stayed for, only three came from Cities, their latest full-length. In fact I left almost wishing I had skipped Main Stage that night for DeGarmo & Key’s reunion set (I grew up on my dad’s old cassette of The Pledge.)

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A Long (Optional) Dissertation on My History With Anberlin
I guess here is where I have to explain my complicated history with Anberlin. I’ve known of them ever since I got their first single “Change the World” off a good ol’ sampler CD (another staple that the Internet killed) and actually saw them open for Relient K on one of their first tours. Then came their second album, and its still-popular hit “Paperthin Hymn” felt to me so much like their first hit (try singing one chorus over the other) that I wrote them off as an uncreative and uninteresting. Even so, I streamed Cities on MySpace early last year – but still wasn’t hooked.

Then at last Cornerstone, Relient K’s bus infamously caught fire, preventing them from coming and spontaneously adjusting the night’s schedule, giving Anberlin the closing slot of the night (it also gave the energetic Jonezetta three shows in one day). This allowed them to do an encore, where they played “Fin,” the epic eight-minute closing track from Cities that wasn’t streamed on MySpace.

That was the beginning of my journey as a fan.

Cities grew on me to become an enjoyable album, and now that I truly know “Fin” I wish I could go back to that unplanned encore and hear how Stephen sang the vocals without the overlapping lyric lines and without the choir behind him. Anyway, I’ve come a long way from shrugging past Cities to eagerly anticipating the release of New Surrender on September 30.

But wait… the new song they played at Main Stage this Cornerstone reminded me of past melodies, and the lyrics seemed more a return to the relationship angst of Never Take Friendship Personal than the challenging thoughts hinted at by Stephen’s poetic blogging about the new record. Guess we’ll have to wait and see… I’ll be buying the album on release day either way.
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A Chance To Say Goodbye
The Glorious Unseen got started a little late, but it was an incredible worship experience, especially since I already knew all their songs and was able to flow right with them. I know the well-meaning folks dislike the emotional junction of “worship experience,” but, with last night’s toga party still in my mind, I was struck by the notion that the emotional thrill of engaging in worship with other believers is not very different from the camaraderie of sweating in a circle pit, except that here the focus is even more directly on God and surrendering to his love and grace – something more real, not less.

Soon it was time to visit our volunteer friends, although Robbie Seay Band wasn’t quite done and they weren’t ready to close down yet. Mike and John went off to get some coffee and never came back; I helped Bethany and friends take care of the infernal flaps and said goodbye.

Though the festival had two full days remaining, my brothers and I had to leave the following evening to begin a trek to Oklahoma for a family reunion. Fortunately – as if the rest of the week hadn’t been enough already – the next few hours would contain enough fun for two days, if not the months to come.

TOP 10 SONGS OF 2007

And you thought I was all done with my silly year-end lists that probably interest me far more than anyone who may skim through this note. But what can I say? I love music and numbers. And you may have noticed a conspicuous lack of individual songs in my previous annual musical honor roll.

#10. “Bubbly” by Colbie Caillat

No, there’s not really anything manly about liking this song, but hey, everyone should be allowed at least one yearly guilty pleasure. I also confess that I didn’t know how to correctly spell her name until I looked it up five minutes ago to download off iTunes.

#9. “Shoreline” by Deas Vail

My favorite debut artist of 2007 and their hauntingly soothing piano-led wonder.

#8. “Made to Love” by tobyMac

Toby gets his first contemporary Christian radio hit and cements his skills as a first-rate wanna-be hip-hop/rock/I-have-no-idea-but-he-sure-is-entertaining star. Fun stuff.

#7. “(*Fin)” by Anberlin

Don’t be put off by the fact that half of the title is made up of non-letters. This nine-minute epic ballad album closer depicts open questioning from a man who feels like “the patron saint of lost causes.” Anberlin’s best songwriting to date.

#6. “You Picked Me” by A Fine Frenzy

This indie-ish redhead delivers a charming love song: “Like an apple on a tree, hiding out behind the leaves / I was difficult to reach / but you picked me,” almost whispering the last three words with a purely delightful inflection.

#5. “The Bird and the Worm” by The Used

Managing to pack vivid strings, pounding rhythms, and hollow echoes into a surprisingly intense four minutes with sprinkled sound effects, The Used fulfills the satisfying mini-epic that last year’s “…Black Parade” almost was.

#4. “Tonight the Stars Speak” by The Glorious Unseen

Ambient worship at its finest, the broken surrender of this song refocuses and refreshs the wandering and weary heart: “How long til your voice speaks clearly?/ How long til your arms envelop me?/ I cry, be my strength when I am weak / O Lord, have mercy on me please

#3. “The Sound of Truth” by As I Lay Dying

The strongest track musically and lyrically on AILD’s frenetic double-bass-pounding, guitar-slaying metalfest, Tim Lambesis strips away our clouded motives and challenges, “For what use is there in praying/ If you will only hear what you want to hear?/ We have all heard what we wanted to hear / “Truth” that sounds right to our ears…” The intensity digs deep into the heart and the head.

#2. “Dashboard” by Modest Mouse

This bouncy single offers a refreshingly optimistic outlook on life in that amusingly poetic that only Modest Mouse can offer: “Well, it would’ve been, could’ve been worse than you would ever know/ The dashboard melted, but we still have the radio…/ the windshield was broken but I love the fresh air y’know…

#1. “Deathbed” by Relient K

Eleven minutes.

Several dozen instrumental tracks.

8 key changes.

9 tempo changes.

A complete story in the lyrics.

Lots of piano.

Guest singing by Jon Foreman.

What’s not to love?

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